Have you ever seen triplets at the mall? Quadruplets at the park? Or what about quintuplets out for a walk? Are you the type of person to bite your tongue and say nothing, or do you share your thoughts with the “mom” (mom in quotes, because often it may be the nanny 🙂 )?
During my nearly twelve years as a nanny or babysitter to higher order multiples (triplets +), I’ve heard it all! There’s no question that surprises me anymore, or catches me off guard – at least not for too long. I have a comeback for each comment. Here are my top 5 questions asked, seriously people ask these questions! Plus, my comebacks that I pull out of my back pocket!
#1) Are they all three identical? Can you tell them apart?
Since the triplets are two boys and a girl, most likely they are NOT identical triplets…last time I looked boys and girls cannot be identical. However, we are still contemplating getting that confirmed just to make sure!
The triplets are now three years old, at first I had a hard time telling them apart (since you know they have to be identical)….finally made an easy decision and just renamed them all the same name…that way they don’t know I cannot tell them apart!
#2) Are they natural?
No, they aren’t natural. Actually, they are little aliens that I made as part of a science experiment! I think they look pretty natural, don’t you?
#3) How did you (yes, me…remember, the nanny?!) lose the weight so fast?
You wouldn’t believe my metabolism! Unbelievable, within about 1 minute of them being born I was right back in my size 4 pants. Sorry you weren’t as lucky!
#4) Your hands must be full….
Wow, you sure are observant J But more importantly my heart is full!
#5) Better you than me!
You’re right. I’m happy it’s me and not you. I’m happy to be a part of these little blessings lives!
I’m not stating these to sound offensive or callous. Trust me there are people who leave the sweetest comments that are truly appreciated. Unfortunately, those are not the ones that stick out in the memories of parents and caregivers of multiples. It’s the rude, inappropriate, way to personal questions that are offensive and callous.
Next time you see an adorable set of multiples, think before you speak! If you were the other person would you want to be asked that question? Most likely, your question isn’t original and/or witty, we’ve heard them all!
Here’s a funny YouTube Video that makes fun of the questions multiples caregivers are asked…it’s silly, but in all honesty, true! You will be absolutely amazed…people really ask these questions!!
Thank you so much to Cori of Cori’s Big Mouth for this hilarious Guest Post!