A Big Day {Guest Post from Carrie With Children}

Today is Hayden’s big day at the doctor’s. And while I’ve never met him (or his parents) in person, I can tell you that he’ll be in my thoughts/prayers all day. I guess you could say that I’ve “been there, done that..still doing it” with doctor’s appointments, meeting with specialists, haggling with insurance, etc. I’m a special needs mom, at birth my daughter Molly was diagnosed with Down syndrome – we’ve made the rounds with every type of doctor you can think of over the last few months. I’m happy to tell you that Molly is now seven-months old and is defying all the odds, in that she is a healthy, happy and beautiful little girl. I couldn’t be any more proud of her!

Molly – October 2010

So with that said, I can relate to the feelings that Melissa and Heath must be feeling today as their little man goes in for his MRI.  It’s hard to see your own child in such pain and for them to not understand what’s going on. It’s scary dealing with the unknowns and the ‘what if’ scenarios. Trust me…I know, I’ve been there! As an outsider – it can be tough to know how to approach someone. So you wanna know how you can support someone in this type of situation? Here’s some tips from a “been there, done that” kinda mom –

• Don’t say “Call me if you need anything”… Be proactive. Bring them dinner, sit with them at the hospital, offer to take on some of their responsibilities at home.
• Ask questions! It’s nice to have someone listen. Show your concern and don’t shy away.
• Even if you are far away, send a card or email to let them know you are thinking of them. You’d be surprised how much that can lift a person’s spirit!
• If the child has siblings, make them feel special too! Siblings may feel neglected when their sister/brother is getting much needed attention.
• Hugs, hugs and more hugs!

So, Mr. Hayden – I know you are going to be a tough little man today! Your doctors are going to take great care of you! Melissa and Heath – you are awesome parents and I’ll be thinking about you today! Know that your friends and family are here for you!